[DT]
Gearhead Surf Coder
devitek said:In no way am I saying that parents should push that hard. If you have a kid that just struggles, the first thing you should do is find out why. After that, you see if there is anything you can do to help, or if there is a program or group that can help. If you deplete your options, as a parent, to help your child learn and maintain decent grades, and your child is still failing, then you just have to drop your expectations. At that point, however, you probably have a child that fits what I described earlier and they probably would struggle just as much with video games as they would at school.
Also, expecting A's from a child that is just not capable is ludicrous. My daughter is exceptional, and I expect those types of scores from her. I don't push her to an extreme--I just make sure she gets her homework done every night and that she understands her coursework. If she wasn't capable, then B's or C's would be fine, too...just not anything lower.
More outstanding assessment. I'm positive - barring physiological issues - that all kids are capable of getting good grades with some effort. Maybe the baseline program has to be lowered, maybe there has to be some complimenting support by the parent, afterschool with the instructor, tutoring, etc., or even as devitek suggested, maybe "good" is a sliding scale to accomodate your child's capability.
However, I suspect most of the general programs in school are within the capability of _most_ children. It's a bit of a copout to subscribe to the notion that the cognitive ability of a child is so out of skew they have the inablity to perform decent in some capacity.
I knew folks in high school, that I wouldn't consider brilliant thinkers, but who did exceptionally well because they put in the effort. They were at the library the day of an assignment, they turned in extra drafts, they did all the extra credit work (as opposed to people like myself, but that's another story :lol: )
Hell, from what I remember of grammar and middle schools, it was mainly read and regurgitate.