I'm sorry :(

[Tacos]

LC, this wasn't just some stupid job. This was the start of a career (she is older than you).

GREAT, now she just told me that she started smoking again because of this whole thing....and she was doing so good.


Also, please realize that this IS my girlfriend (At least until she decides to dump me) so please don't say rude comments like calling her an idiot.

 

[The_Loose_Cannon]

Oh I forgot, online relationships can't be real unless it's organized by some popular love site that involves money like eharmony. Then it'll be surely real!

Maybe he was just fooling around, but he still did mess up. Who knows if the fun-fun fantasy relationship could've grown into more. It's happened to friends of mine before.

lmfao youre lucky i like you neo but no seriously, again i see your point with commericialized websites. only reason i say its "real" is because its guarenteed youll get who it is on the other end. they are pretty strict and you need to verify. thats what i mean

however, i know a couple who got met and got married on a weapons forum! but it was also a public/team (IE payed membership to access certain forums on the site) website.

i dont think he messed up whatsoever. how old was your friend? tell me he was atleast old enough to buy a plane ticket if it was out of state lol

 

[Tacos]

Also, the idea here was to get some ideas of what to do to make it up to her. I feel like there is nothing. She said that she doesn't feel like she can trust me. And she said she doesn't want to see me. Would it be bad to go to her house with flowers, or should I respect her, and stay away until she is ready to talk?

 

[The_Loose_Cannon]

LC, this wasn't just some stupid job. This was the start of a career (she is older than you).

GREAT, now she just told me that she started smoking again because of this whole thing....and she was doing so good.


Also, please realize that this IS my girlfriend (At least until she decides to dump me) so please don't say rude comments like calling her an idiot.

ok then im sorry, there was no further ellaboration on what type of job this was or verifcation on her age.

and yeah they all smoke when things to bad (i know i do) but shes doing things to make you feel like ****. that makes her stupid.

im not calling her an idiot per say. im saying shes idiotic for the way shes handling the situation. dumbass seems to come to mind BUT that doesnt make her overall personality/deposition a complete idiot. she can be a genious but look how she handeled the situation? oh yeah thats right starting world war 3 and making you feel like a pervert.

so again i appologize for offending you BUT you gotta see where im comming from because she is being stupid about it. come on an email over some random girl? maturity maturity maturity

 

[chain blade]

Get over it,you dont even know her!!!!!!!!

 

[Spitfire Pilot]

It's not totally surprising that your GF feels the way she does. Girls have a very different way of looking at relationship from men. In the same way, most women would be upset to find their boyfriend/husband looking at porn - they see this as meaning that they are not enough for him. It's a very complex issue and it is what defines the differences between men and women. A man can be totally in love with a woman, but it doesn't stop him from finding other women attractive when he walks down the street. This doesn't mean he's going to do something about it! It's built into his genes, and he can't help it. Most women, in my experience, "block out" other men when they are committed to a relationship, and don't even notice them. This, too, is built into their genes.

 

[chain blade]

Ok,thanks for that,dictionaray!!!

 

[Wiitendo]

first of all, tell your girlfriend now to get over herself. you had a "cyber buddy" you never met this girl right? so why is your gf getting all upset? also why was she going through your belongings anyways? personal accounts are just that personal.

your gf has nothing to worry about. you were talking online and flirting with someone who could of or couldnt of been a girl. youre all about "doubts" arent you considering you dont believe me? :shifty:

i think shes bugging out and acting immaturely. thats my personal opinion. you didnt do anything wrong. you talked to some girl online and said some things. big whoop. its not like she caught you with someone in the neighborhood and someone she knew/knew about or heard of.

again, what you did is what EVERY GUY/GIRL does. except they pay for it through special websites.

i wouldnt stress over it or beg for her forgiveness. i think shes being childish and if you DO have problems that this girl was able to fill the void with then you need to talk to your gf about it. if your heart is "straying" she needs to know.

Awarded reward for the first use of the shity eyes icon.

 

[The_Loose_Cannon]

It's not totally surprising that your GF feels the way she does. Girls have a very different way of looking at relationship from men. In the same way, most women would be upset to find their boyfriend/husband looking at porn - they see this as meaning that they are not enough for him. It's a very complex issue and it is what defines the differences between men and women. A man can be totally in love with a woman, but it doesn't stop him from finding other women attractive when he walks down the street. This doesn't mean he's going to do something about it! It's built into his genes, and he can't help it. Most women, in my experience, "block out" other men when they are committed to a relationship, and don't even notice them. This, too, is built into their genes.

men are men and women are women. yes, women are more irrational than men but you need to understand that porn is for entertainment purposes. everyone knows that not ALL women look and will act like jenna jameson in bed (granted shes gorgeous and hell id be jealous of her talent!). its all fantasy. its all fake. if you want to make love to a porn star then quit your day job and become "johnny wang"

my bf has a collection of porn not like anyone needs to know this and do i have a problem with him watching it? absolutely not. its human nature.

women are too insecure with themselves. if the guy is with you, you know that youre attractive enough to be with him. he chose YOU over the piles of girls out there that would kill to be with him. its rediculous how many girls go out of their way to make false accusations and pry for uncertain truth. it gets you into trouble and makes you look like an ass for even questioning the relationship. its one thing to ask a question, its another to look like a fool and look for things that dont exist


i still say tacos gf needs to grow up and stop focusing for things that dont exist. :tard:

 

[ssbb_lover]

Before I say anything, I just wanna remind you i'm 14....so i'm not exactly what you would call an "expert" in this situation (just kinda sorta starting to get in a relationship). ^_^

I would definitely give her flowers and a card (or whatever else, like a box o' chocolates), but maybe not in person. Just send it to her, tell her that you want to see her, but not till she's ready...that'll reassure her that you care about her enough to still show you love her, but you respect how she's taking this.

If that's totally wrong, please, someone tell me (as I have no experience whatsoever). Any relationship advice is helpful to me.

My sister has a boyfriend and they've been together for 3-4 years strong, as in no fights as of yet. Well...one fight, but I don't know what it was about. Actually, I don't know what happened to mend their relationship back together again...anyways, I kinda get tips just from watching them.

So anyways...ya, relationship advice would be cool (yes, i'm brave enough to admit I need it )...keep in mind i'm 14...oh, and help tacos too!

 

[Tacos]

Before I say anything, I just wanna remind you i'm 14....so i'm not exactly what you would call an "expert" in this situation (just kinda sorta starting to get in a relationship). ^_^

I would definitely give her flowers and a card (or whatever else, like a box o' chocolates), but maybe not in person. Just send it to her, tell her that you want to see her, but not till she's ready...that'll reassure her that you care about her enough to still show you love her, but you respect how she's taking this.

If that's totally wrong, please, someone tell me (as I have no experience whatsoever). Any relationship advice is helpful to me.

My sister has a boyfriend and they've been together for 3-4 years strong, as in no fights as of yet. Well...one fight, but I don't know what it was about. Actually, I don't know what happened to mend their relationship back together again...anyways, I kinda get tips just from watching them.

So anyways...ya, relationship advice would be cool (yes, i'm brave enough to admit I need it )...keep in mind i'm 14...oh, and help tacos too!

Thanks for the advice. That is exactly what I was looking for....the thoughts of someone that has a completely different view on it than I do.

My advice to you is to be honest at all times. I didn't even realize I wasn't being honest, and look where it got me.

OH, and there is more.....

She logged into my account there. (I thought I had deleted it, but I guess I didn't reply to the confirmation e-mail....it was in my junk mail.) And she wrote some stuff. I am not sure what it was. I am not sure how to respond to this.

If I try to explain anything, she doesn't believe me. She read some of the messages, and got what she wanted from them. And now she won't change her mind. She says she will never trust me. That she trusted me more than she ever trusted anyone, and now that is ruined. I feel like such a jerk.

 

[surfinrach90]

Okay if you REALLY want to be with her and if you think she's REALLY worth it then give her space. Just give her the space she needs then she'll cool down. and if she really cares for you and still want's to be with you then she'll like phone or whatever. If she doesn't then you'll know she's had enough.

But yeah, just tell her that you're going to give her space and make her feel like it's her desicion and all that.. and don't worry about it dude It will all work out in the end, it allways does :thumbsup:

 

[Ezekiel86]

I seriously reckon we have to be one of the most caring forums around! So many people willing to give their advice and experiences to help the less wordly

Well, here's my two cents worth (sorry if some of it is repeated, I haven't had the time to thoroughly read everybody's repsonses):

Firstly: I don't understand the phoenomenon with internet relationships. I went to TAFE with a girl who had a boyfriend in America, who she met off Deviantart (so they've never met in person). I just don't get it. How can you fall in love with someone you don't even 'know' in person? The individual they project themselves to be on the internet (some might use the terminology of "alter ego") could be hugely different than the person they are in real life (or "RL").

You might fall in love with who you think they are, not who they really are, and that's what saddens me, seeing people devote themselves and their emotions to what could potentially be nothing more than a series of bytes floating around in metaspace.

Are there no girls in your area who interest you? Do you feel such a great need for another person? I can't help but wonder what happened to meeting people the old-fashioned way? Although I certainly can't bag the internet too much for it's friendship potentials: through the internet I have made countless friends I would not have had an opportunity to interact with without it (the very act of me writing this post is a prime example).

I do believe some people take the idea too far though; my dad is an excellent example. He spends all his spare time on internet dating sites and MSN chatting to women he meets through the internet, and he gets so into the whole idea he forgets the world around him. He lets his house get filthy and his whole existance becomes centred around his computer. Hell, I come through his house at night and I find him sleeping with his hands still on the keyboard. I can't help but feel sorry for him, is this all his life has been reduced to? It's a sorry sight... and it makes me sad to see people basing their lives around what could well be false hopes.

Second: Exactly how old are you? I'm just curious. Chances are you're probably too young to be wanting to be seriously considering a relationship though. My uncle and older brother have told me something: The parties only get better as you get older. I'm still not officially of "that age" yet, as I'm still 20 (nearly 21) but I can tell you, I looked back on myself when I was 16 or so and the girls i liked back then, and I laugh at it now, because I think "what the hell did i ever see in that?"

I guess that's my two cents worth for now,
I'd best be off if I'm to stand any chance of getting up for class tomorrow